I find myself spending a lot of time and energy lately defending my own honor.

The amount of fucktards I have to deal with when it comes to online dating is astounding. People who claim to be experienced Dom’s completely making utter fools of themselves behind the safety of a keyboard.

I’m working on a list that perhaps should be sent to every ingrate who believe they are a proper Dom on dating/kinky websites. There should be some type of protocol to follow (if there is, by all means, share it with me so I can pass it off to these offenders).

With an inbox constantly full of god awful monstrosities, I felt compelled to set the record straight.

​My experience has been as follows:

Just Because I’m Kinky…

• Doesn’t mean I don’t have feelings. I have a heart just like everyone else has a heart. You can’t pretend that I’m a human devoid of feelings. If you’ve somewhere figured out how to operate without any humanity, please enlighten me. Otherwise, treat me like a fucking human for fuck sake!
• Doesn’t mean I want you shoving your dick in my face from conversation #1. Your unsolicited dick pics, are quite frankly, boring. If I ask for them, then yes, by all means. Otherwise, keep your dick to your goddamn self. We get it, you have a big cock. So do millions of other people, get over it.
• Doesn’t mean you can treat me like garbage. Under the proper circumstances, humiliation and degradation are fine, but not until we’ve entered into that sort of arrangement. Otherwise, treat me with the respect I deserve.
• Doesn’t mean you can try to Dom me right away. I’m sorry, did we already agree to something I don’t recall agreeing? Because if you come at me like a Dom I’ve been with for years, I’m going to shut that shit down right away. Trying to Dom from convo #1 just shows your ignorance and inexperience. Fuck off!
• Doesn’t mean I will automatically submit to you. Are you crazy? If I submitted to every Tom, Dick or Harry that breezed through my inbox I’d never have time to get to your wise ass remarks. Please, for the love of all things holly, don’t assume shit like that.
• Doesn’t mean I’m a weak minded person. Quite the contrary my dominant friends. I’m a very strong and independent person. I don’t NEED you in my life…I WANT you. There’s a difference. Leave your coercive bullshit at the door, I don’t have time for it.
• Doesn’t mean I want money from you or need your financial assistance. Yes, I’m very aware of sex work and support it. However, it’s not what I’m looking for. You trying to give me money or bribe me to sleep with you isn’t something I’m interested in entertaining.
• Doesn’t mean I’m not looking for a serious connection/relationship. In fact, when it comes to kinky relationships, I ABSOLUTELY want a serious relationship with that person. How else am I to trust you with my body and mind?
• Doesn’t mean I will fuck you. It just doesn’t. I have wants/needs/standards. Just because I don’t want to have sex with you doesn’t mean I’m less kinky, a prude or whatever else you want to call me when I politely reject you when the chemistry isn’t right or I’m not attracted to you.

What is does mean is: I’m open to the possibility of entering into a kinky relationship, likely D/s with someone. That’s it! Don’t read anymore into it then that right there.

It’s like if I told you any other detail about myself. If your laser focused mind can’t get past that simple fact about me….it’s just not gonna work out. Like ever.

End of rant.